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Resisting what is, is a sure way to suffer.

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The tricky thing is when you find yourself in a disorientating place and you're not sure 'what is' is. I suppose in that space, not resisting the disorientation is the important thing. I think that's where you are nudging me.

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Yes, I find mindsets are my areas of change in the season I’m in. Unlearning boxed thinking still applies. I’m much freer but excited for more.🪷

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Write your story. Keep doing the BSL. Listen to your heart. It usually knows best. And our self-definition can change over time. Mine has and I'm currently trying to articulate what it is because my writing is a bit stuck too.

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You would think that with all my writing about holding beliefs lightly and being ready to change when new evidence arrives I would not be so surprised and disorientated upon discovering that my self-definition was in need of an update. But here I am. It's a big yes from me on the story and the BSL because I believe my heart does know best here. The challenge is learning, like you, to articulate what my heart is telling me and realigning my actions. Thank you.

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Read Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic. I think it will help.

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I have and it did! At your prompting I will remind myself of some of the big things I learned from her. Thank you.

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I hear you, Jeff. My writing is very very very stuck, for similar reasons to yours. I’m just trying to be patient at this point. Instead of pressure. Patience.

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I'm glad I'm not alone, but I'm more sorry that you're stuck. Yes to patience. If we stay open and take every next step that we can, unstuckness will happen at the right time. Thank you.

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Thank YOU! One day we’ll look back and say, ohhhhhh… now I know why I had to wait for the unstuckness to happen!

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Peculiar how you declare stuckness while your inspirations are giving me opportunity to share you with a few others this week.🤔

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I don’t know what you should do, but I do know that I love that TREE is the kind of thing where a post can end with “I don’t know what the answer is.” It’s nice to hear and see the process and internal dialogue you go through. It makes me feel less alone, because I have that internal dialogue myself many times.

Thanks for not just keeping this in your journal. The general public is better off for it 👍

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Thanks so much, Jim. Your comment and the others have really helped me to feel less alone in this. We're all helping each other out in the FFOREST.

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May I suggest leaning into the stuckness? That feels counter intuitive. No matter. Go with it, make it worse in a tangible way. You voiced it here. I heard you in Arizona. I validate you. That HAS worked. Catch up to it working, which would mean you’re unstuck! Yes? May be a smidge? Let that little intentional exercise inspire or fan the fire🔥I HEAR YOU! Your voice or written word got my attention. Right, write on!

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Big time. For me it's anything creative or even studious, anything that is not 'working', feels like a massive self indulgence. I mean it's right there on Maslow's Hierarchy but I still feel guilty.

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Removing misapplied guilt seems to be one of the bigger tasks when it comes to human thriving. Matt, I wish you lots of guilt-free happiness as you make time to not work.

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