On Tuesday I wrote about the problem with going all-in to a new thing without working on your interior stuff. It’s easy for me to see that problem because I don’t have it. I have the opposite.
Hi! It’s me! A couple years ago I even purchased an e-course about how it’s ok to be a lone wolf. Jeeeeez. Participating in group things is kinda painful but in an effort to try and find this proverbial tribe everyone keeps talking about, I keep trying. I do even find weirdos just like me, but I think they feel like they don’t belong either so the connection is lost. It’s the double whammy that the great gold prospector Yukon Cornelius put so eloquently: “Even among misfits you’re misfits.”
To belong somewhere means that we matter to someone. Mattering is the root. And self worth is the root of mattering. The more I shore up my self worth, the less terrible I feel about being an outsider. Some days I need to be cool with mattering to myself. A daily struggle though, that’s for sure! And #1 up there is most likely true.
In any case, I don’t need to feel like I belong here in FFOREST to know that this work of yours matters. Your keen “outsider” ways of looking at the world inspire me to think and you also provide me with the space to make my random comments. In the wise words of Hermey the Dentist Elf, “we can be misfits together!”
Speaking of Christmas, thanks for mentioning your book this week as it reminded me to leave my review! Amazon and Goodreads ✅✅
I usually don't feel like I belong. And I can focus on that feeling...how much I feel like I don't belong, or I can just let it be there—without judgment on the feeling. Also, as I learn to "belong to myself" -- a self-esteem, self-care task--it matters less that I don't feel like I belong, because I'm free to bring myself, my uniqueness, my gifts, into any situation, and be at peace. Feeling like I don't belong--for me--has been rooted in my focus on what other people are probably thinking about me. Surrendering that is an awesome, continual assignment. Thanks Jeff!
Ageing is full of good surprises. Interior surprises. I’m almost 70 and guessed to be 55 usually. My face is lined and wrinkled but my interior has smoothed out in response. I’m INFJ in personality, 6% of the populace are. So what? My essence has not changed since I can remember at 18 months old. I depend on the essence that doesn’t fail me. My personality would and has failed me. But the life force is what I harness for good for me and others. It’s dependable.🪷
Hi! It’s me! A couple years ago I even purchased an e-course about how it’s ok to be a lone wolf. Jeeeeez. Participating in group things is kinda painful but in an effort to try and find this proverbial tribe everyone keeps talking about, I keep trying. I do even find weirdos just like me, but I think they feel like they don’t belong either so the connection is lost. It’s the double whammy that the great gold prospector Yukon Cornelius put so eloquently: “Even among misfits you’re misfits.”
To belong somewhere means that we matter to someone. Mattering is the root. And self worth is the root of mattering. The more I shore up my self worth, the less terrible I feel about being an outsider. Some days I need to be cool with mattering to myself. A daily struggle though, that’s for sure! And #1 up there is most likely true.
In any case, I don’t need to feel like I belong here in FFOREST to know that this work of yours matters. Your keen “outsider” ways of looking at the world inspire me to think and you also provide me with the space to make my random comments. In the wise words of Hermey the Dentist Elf, “we can be misfits together!”
Speaking of Christmas, thanks for mentioning your book this week as it reminded me to leave my review! Amazon and Goodreads ✅✅
I usually don't feel like I belong. And I can focus on that feeling...how much I feel like I don't belong, or I can just let it be there—without judgment on the feeling. Also, as I learn to "belong to myself" -- a self-esteem, self-care task--it matters less that I don't feel like I belong, because I'm free to bring myself, my uniqueness, my gifts, into any situation, and be at peace. Feeling like I don't belong--for me--has been rooted in my focus on what other people are probably thinking about me. Surrendering that is an awesome, continual assignment. Thanks Jeff!
Ageing is full of good surprises. Interior surprises. I’m almost 70 and guessed to be 55 usually. My face is lined and wrinkled but my interior has smoothed out in response. I’m INFJ in personality, 6% of the populace are. So what? My essence has not changed since I can remember at 18 months old. I depend on the essence that doesn’t fail me. My personality would and has failed me. But the life force is what I harness for good for me and others. It’s dependable.🪷