Love this!! Can we start a campaign to abolish the garbage that is "Gotta be cruel to be kind" and replace it with "Gotta be kind to be kind"? A couple of years back I wrote a whole programme for social workers supporting them to be more relational in the work they do (I know, I know...but start with what you've got..) - The intro to the whole programme had one sentence that laid out the principles: "The underpinning principle is “Always Be Kind” as this encourages us to behave with care and compassion, even when working with challenges and disagreements. If you are not kind, then none of the other principles will be relevant to you!!" A group of managers asked me to change it to not include the word 'kind'....I refused, but they went ahead anyway. Long story short - They were self-critical, overwhelmed, cynical and stressed folk. If only they could have been kinder to themselves then just maybe they would have understood what I was saying to them....
Yep - their defence was that ‘sometimes we’re not kind because of the jobs we have to do…’ Let’s just say we had a professional disagreement about that…
Love this!! Can we start a campaign to abolish the garbage that is "Gotta be cruel to be kind" and replace it with "Gotta be kind to be kind"? A couple of years back I wrote a whole programme for social workers supporting them to be more relational in the work they do (I know, I know...but start with what you've got..) - The intro to the whole programme had one sentence that laid out the principles: "The underpinning principle is “Always Be Kind” as this encourages us to behave with care and compassion, even when working with challenges and disagreements. If you are not kind, then none of the other principles will be relevant to you!!" A group of managers asked me to change it to not include the word 'kind'....I refused, but they went ahead anyway. Long story short - They were self-critical, overwhelmed, cynical and stressed folk. If only they could have been kinder to themselves then just maybe they would have understood what I was saying to them....
This has been in my head repeatedly since I read it: “A group of managers asked me to change it to not include the word 'kind’.”
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It’s true that kindness takes effort and energy, but it’s so much more effective than the alternatives.
Yep - their defence was that ‘sometimes we’re not kind because of the jobs we have to do…’ Let’s just say we had a professional disagreement about that…
The Bible says the righteous are kind to their animals. I've noticed this is true.
I want to sing this from the tallest mountaintops. You put it so nicely, too. 100x yes.
Thank you, Marya. I’m looking forward to the day when TREE: the musical is performed in the Himalayas.
I love this Golden Eagle of Sweets and Petrol ⛽️! It would make going to the pumps another game! I paid $4.59 a gallon and no sweets 😳!
These days, $4.59 a gallon is winning.
4.39 now