🔚 TREE 337: Emotions are
Throwback Thursday – TREE 93
One.
Have you ever said, ‘I know I shouldn’t feel [emotion that you feel], but…’?
What should you feel, then? Who says so? Why?
When you drive your car 300 miles and the fuel gauge points to E, do you say, ‘I know the fuel gauge shouldn’t be on empty, but…’?
You are feeling what you are feeling for a reason (or several). Your emotions are giving you valuable information about your state of being. Should and shouldn’t have nothing to do with it. Emotions just are. Guilt and justification are not useful responses.
It may be that you don’t want to feel certain emotions –
jealousy of your neighbour’s new car,
anger when you don’t get your way,
rage when you doomscroll,
sadness about your past,
etc.
The answer is not to hate the emotion. Thank the emotion for pointing out that something is wrong, then figure out what you need to work on –
developing contentment,
letting go of expectations,
doing something about injustice,
finding a therapist,
etc.
Two.
Jim likes surfing, except for the waves.
Three.
I know I shared an Akintoye song not too long ago, but he’s so listentoable.
So much cool news!
We’re going to have a real life North Wales TREE hangout in a couple weeks! The deets: Wednesday 16 February, 7:30 PM at The Albion in Conwy because the beer is good and there are no TVs or sound systems to shout over. I can’t wait to hang out with you for a couple hours.
Tomorrow’s Feymansplaining is about methylhemoglobin (and other things). It’s so good!
On Mondays throughout February, The Valorie Clarke will be our podcaster in residence. Take a look at her supercool podcast Unruly Figures.
Grow slowly
Jeff
Validation starts with you. Validate your own feelings so nothing or no one has the chance to make you feel differently about your emotions. Only you know how you feel, own it.
Also. I am jealous of the hang out. And I am owning that. Hah!
Feelings are a part of our life experience. Us passionate creatives have boucoup feelings that can be run away trains that crash. That’s extreme but it happens. I avoid crashing by living in the moment. Watchman Nee advocated to avoid extreme or excessive emotion through self control. As a woman, crying was my first emotion I used to apply his teachings. He said cry but don’t cry more than you need to. Well, that’s hard to figure out depending upon why you’re crying. Did someone you love die? Or did you spouse mistreat you? I have to say, it’s helped me 40 years to observe my reasons for crying. I cry less because I’m not jammed up with unrecognized emotion. When I do cry, it’s a release I welcome. It’s a cleansing and a reboot. How do you handle your excessive emotions?