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Last year, someone with spiritual beliefs different from mine commented on TREE. He asked specific questions about my beliefs. I replied that I don’t get into that on TREE because I want it to be a place where anyone who wants to grow will feel welcome, no matter what their spirituality is or isn’t. (Same goes for politics and economics.) I said, shall we have a chat? He said, yes, let’s. So we did. And he asked real questions and did real listening. We both went away from the conversation with our beliefs unchanged but our lives enriched and our understanding deepened.
I have some clients who are Christians. When they saw what the bible says about God being on the side of widows and orphans, they took it seriously. They are now on their way to becoming qualified foster parents. I don’t know how much you know about foster parenting. It’s a tough, 24/7 job. I think they have what it takes to do it really well.
A few weeks ago, a creative friend asked me to endorse a thing they made. I looked at it. I didn’t think it was good enough yet. It made sick to do it, but I wanted to be honest. I told them I couldn’t endorse their thing. My friend replied asking what I thought was needed to make it good enough. They put the quality of their work before their ego.
People like these who live their values, even when it is inconvenient (or lifechangingly hard), are the best people. Try to be like them.
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Tony is a leg man.
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To improve your mood for the day, play this song, then play the rest of the EP.
Happy Monday, TREEfolk!
This week, I’m writing about doing the important things
Grow slowly
Jeff
I hear you, Jeff. I’m uncomfortable telling another the truth when I know it’s not what they want to hear. But I have a trick. I say it in a calm gentle voice. Then I know I used honey with the medicine. If there’s time to prepare I run through the opening sentence, point , and summary. It keeps my emotions level and I know I was clear and kind, but direct. Their response is on them. It’s a little toolset that has given me confidence to follow through while my knees are knocking. Soldier on!