🤫 The secret to unhappiness
Book of TREE 2.85
What if you truly don’t know how to thrive?
Maybe the things that are supposed to work don’t work for you because you have undiagnosed autism, dyslexia, foetal alcohol spectrum disorder, ADHD or something else.
Maybe you have an autoimmune disease and the treatments don’t help or don’t exist.
Maybe you are living with trauma and the way forward is blocked for you.
Maybe you have depression and everything feels hopeless even though you know it shouldn’t which makes everything feel even more hopeless.
Maybe you are living in an impossible situation and you don’t know how to get out.
Maybe my cheery posts about changing your environment and changing your story feel like mockery bombs lobbed from a happy land you can’t get to because you. don’t. actually. fucking. know. how.
If that’s where you are, I’m so sorry. It’s not fair. You shouldn’t have to be there.
I haven’t been exactly where you are. Where I have been is I have lost a child, raised children with various conditions, lived through mental illness and poverty. It’s much less that others have suffered, but it’s enough that I feel like I can tell you the only secret I know for that kind of unhappiness. It’s not really a secret:
Don’t quit.
Because things always change. This is the nature of life. Your situation as you are experiencing it right now is not forever.
Because there are people who can and will help. You’ve probably experienced too many people who wouldn’t help or made things worse by trying. But there are eight billion people on this planet. Some of them know how to help you.
Keep asking. Keep looking. Keep going.
This isn’t your life forever.
Apparently ‘Lizzie Esau’s name is on everyone’s lips. This talent powerhouse is one to watch, making history as the first BBC Introducing From The Glasshouse headliner. She’s been championed by BBC Introducing, Look North, Greg James (Radio 1), and Danielle Perry (Absolute Radio)’ (The Glasshouse International Centre for Music, yesterday). Not to brag or anything, but I’ve been listening to her music since 2023.
Grow slowly
Jeff
My dad never liked me. I have dyslexia. My first husband raped me. My second husband beat me and I fled with my babies. My third husband had dalliances til I left after 40 years. I did have thoughts to end my life, once seriously. No attempt but boy I considered it. But you’re right, Jeff, don’t quit. I have been helped by many people to love my life. Don’t quit, please.🙏
Loved the end of the song, like worship 🏜️