Beloved member of the FFOREST Denelle DeFer once wrote a profound comment that I expanded into a four-post riff. That’s what we’re doing this week.
I don’t resist what is. I realize it and embrace the challenge. It’s inevitable my beliefs will change. The choices will always be for MORE 🪷
— Denelle DeFer
Reality as it’s happening to you doesn’t fit into a tidy narrative. This is upsetting because stories are how humans make sense of the world. When you have a story that works for you, you don’t want to give it up. When reality contradicts your story of How The World Is, the natural tendency is not to update your story but to squeeze and scrunch and twist reality inside your head to make it fit your story.
This is why people
get conned
have relationships with terrible people
throw good money after bad
become defensive when faced with evidence that they are not as delightful as they tell ourselves
rage against the dying of the light.
A good way to save yourself a shedload of suffering is to make your story of How The World Is easy to update so that you can quickly accept whatever reality throws at you.
—Jeff
Sometimes reality is hard to swallow even if your mindset is in the right place. Deep breaths. We will make it through.
Happy new week!
Grow slowly
Skyler