One.
Let’s say you want to
get in shape
eat healthy
quit looking at porn
control your temper
stop lying
end human trafficking
etc.
You may have a
strong moral reason for
deciding to make a change.
I propose that once you
have made your moral choice –
provided you are a person
of integrity with good ethics –
you put morality to one side
and treat the application
of your choice
to real life
as a purely
practical
matter.
Here’s why:
Morality adds weight.
Imagine day three of your
healthy-living journey when
you succumb to your cravings
and instead of working out, you
eat six doughnuts while bingeing on
Pornhub. Morality
will tell you just how bad you are.
Morality will load you with guilt
for your abject failure to be
the person you know you should be.
Morality will replay the lecture
you got in Year 8 about how you never
try hard enough. That’s a lot
to carry while you are doing
the hard work of changing
your diet or ending
human trafficking
or whatever.
I say it’s too much to carry.
Practicality, doesn’t care
about your badness.
Practicality assesses
the disaster of day three
and asks, What can we do
on day four to
make some
progress?
Morality is a theorist.
Practicality is your friend on the frontline.
Two.
There’s not much worse than a judgey bird clamped on to a repressed man’s head.
Three.
I did not see this one coming.
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Grow slowly
Jeff
Morality verses practicality are one in the same to me. My choices to do me come from many mistakes I made doing for others. My motivation of people pleasing was well-honed by the time I was ordained as a reverend. Burnout was typical amongst leadership. We burned the candle at both ends, sacrificing family time. Our familes supported us understandingly. I reaped the whirlwind with physical pain, migraines and back surgery. It was during these times I began to see I wasn't invincible. This is when I began making choices for me, albeit out of necessity, but isn't that what gets our attention? I started Selfcare 101. It felt so selfish and counterintuitive but I started the process. Many years later, the fruit of selfcare is selflove. It's my moral and quite practical pleasure to love my life. I still work on improving myself choosing what is good for me. I'm a health coach for Optavia which is a holistic and healthy approach to living, all encompassing. I live my life and share it now. I don't live other's lives anymore. I have my own. How are you integrating morality and practicality as a flow from your life?